PEACEFUL MARITAL RELATIONSHIP
It’s noted that wherever their is peace it must have been birthed by love and joy as stated in Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. and if there is peace in a place then longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance will come to play because peace is such a rare commodity that no man/woman on earth want to lose. You shall not lose it in Jesus name.
When peace is absent in a marital relationship whether in marriage or in courtship; there is bound to be crisis, unrest and ultimately separation. It was noted that from the beginning of times marital relationships has been having serious problems and even in our days many have device some way out of marital crisis but some of the propounded principles had helped to increased the problem and even cause settled homes to break apart. The Bible said in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 that
…When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. *And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife. *And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; *Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination
You can imagined it yourself that men had been rejecting their wives as far back as before the earth became 1000years old. The scripture above in verse two shows that the woman is still marriage-able with her filth. The truth is that no woman is beyond cleansing, changing and transformation, in fact, it’s when you are able to clean them up that you enjoyed the virtue God had placed in them.
And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. *And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. *Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. *And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Some men went through a lot of hassle, and rigour before they have the woman they have now; praying and consulting people before the woman agreed to their proposal, but where comes the railings, unsettlements and hatred? Why is it that there is no more peace between the two of you anymore? What’s wrong, what has happened? What is the root of your marital relationship crisis? Matthew 19:1-8 …The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? *And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, *And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? *Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. * They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?*He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Jesus propounds a big time solution. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. This is the bedrock of most crisis in some homes as they import evil into their own home by separating those God has put together. There are some Marital relationship that are directly planted by God such that any attempt for both parties to go separate ways will invite the presence of task masters, crisis and lack of peace because they are trying to break the covenant of God. Also such relationship has been sealed in heaven such that any outsider that tries to invade their midst will pay for it (dearly) because God founded that relationship and have a great plan for them. Father Abraham and Sarah his wife were God ordained marital relationship. When Pharaoh came on the scene to take-in Sarah Abraham’s wife and defiled her thunder strike from the heavens Genesis 12:15-20. The princes also of Pharaoh saw her, and commended her before Pharaoh: and the woman was taken into Pharaoh’s house. *And he entreated Abram well for her sake: and he had sheep, and oxen, and he asses, and menservants, and maidservants, and she asses, and camels. *And the Lord plagued Pharaoh and his house with great plagues because of Sarai Abram’s wife. *And Pharaoh called Abram, and said, What is this that thou hast done unto me? why didst thou not tell me that she was thy wife? *Why saidst thou, She is my sister? so I might have taken her to me to wife: now therefore behold thy wife, take her, and go thy way. *And Pharaoh commanded his men concerning him: and they sent him away, and his wife, and all that he had.
Though Abraham was not totally truthful for the sake of his life yet God dash-in to rescue him and fight on his behalf. He did that mainly because of his covenant and the future he had for both of them. There are two(s) that can never go separate ways. Also when Sarah brought-in Hagar the Egyptian her maid into her marital relationship with Abraham, peace became absent and crisis set-in. It’s such an experience that Hagar won’t want to have all her life again. Genesis 16:1-16. 17:15 has the complete story. This also established a point that if your marital relationship with a particular woman or a man is God ordained then you must make sure that you don’t kick against it because the more you try to the more you suffered for it and the consequences of your actions could be trans-generational. Joseph and Mary the biological parents of our Lord Jesus Christ were in covenant relationship. Matthew 1:18-25 Some marital relationships are divinely ordained; any mortal that comes on the scene to separate them will pay dearly for it because What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. It’s good to keep to God’s covenant and not to be killed by the covenant. No man can battle with the Lord!. We will like to trace the roots of some crisis in Marital relationships: people changes with time, we are all born out of several information and other men inputs which has grossly affected our lives and because people possesses different characteristics, speak different languages, there is bound to be frictions and tough times between people of the earth. Such crisis also exists in homes.
- Your Upbringing: You can’t compare a man and a woman that were raised in the same family compound, community, speaks the same language, practice same culture and grew up together and later got married, their marital relationship cannot be compare with those that were raised far apart from each other that might not be same culture neither speak same language which is enough to introduce tension into their midst, but if they both are ready to keep the relationship then they will have to work things out. If one of them want to lord it over the other; there is bound to be serious (fighting back) problems that can lead to separation. It’s good to allow people to dance their dance and do their thing. It has also been noted that churches (Christian assembly) that allows people to express themselves culturally will be footed (established) in many places 1Peter 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
- Your Personal Believes: are forms out of
*what you have learnt over the years
*your problems and the way you came out of them
*your abilities and what you can achieve with it.
*How you get things done
*your breakthroughs and how you do break-forth and more are very hard to change people from.
They are just to be learnt and abide with. A public bus, private commercial driver shared with me the reasons he do have rough time with law enforcement officers is to be known by them and to deliver himself from extorting from him. He said after sometimes that he had been well known of them, they cease to disturb him even when others are been harass. It will be very difficult to change personal believes, just look for ways to live with it. Apostle peter was talking to the wives, he said Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; * While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. *Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 1Peter 3:1-3
Those believe can be changed with time especially by your fine and pure conversation. Jesus can testify, I love You.
PEACEFUL MARITAL RELATIONSHIP
Is possible and can continue if one is ready to give himself for it. When you say I Love You, it also means I will be your peace. Some Marital crisis can also be traceable to breaking the laws of God. If you go into idolatry, fornication, theft, lust and others; it will defiled you and have negative impact on most aspect of your life, marital inclusive. So it’s good to always place a check on oneself to know where we might have missed it, but if you noticed that no matter how you try to bring-in peace into your Marital relationship, it always boomerang then fast, pray. You might even need to seek help from proven men of God for counsel and prayers. Be Blessed, I Love to hear from you!
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